Being close with anyone requires a building of trust, care, mindfulness, common interests/goals/beliefs & so many other attributes.
I learned-Into me see when a facilitator talked about intimacy. I thought, I have never heard it said that way, yet it makes a lot of sense.
Allowing another person to get close to you, takes risk on your part & theirs. I like to say we all are a beautiful bouquet of flowers-share one of your flowers with a person & if they return one back then share another, & if they give more then you share more....not too share all of you at once & become upset, even devastated because the other person does not do the same.
More often then not we look for a person to fullfill our needs (that is your job) instead of looking into ourselves, with honesty, & figuring out what areas of our lives need change.
Ah, that means I need to be honest with myself-oh no, too stressful & painful, however, it is inside & does affect my life.
How can we start? Be kind, caring, loving, nurturing etc to you!
And very important-not everything you find inside will be scary or painful. You will discover a lot of strengths-how do you think you got this far?
Also, anything that has happened to you can be turned into a strength!
You will also find inside of you-the playful, care-free, creative & talented parts that get beaten out of most of us because we have to fit into societies rules.
You Are Worth So Much!
J Christian S