This has been the hardest year of my life… you took your last breaths as I held your hands and lay my head on your chest one year ago this night… just 5 minutes before midnight. It bothers me that your official death date is July 24… because I know you were gone before then, but we had to wait for the hospice nurse to pronounce you.[...]
Just a quick entry today. I'm not entirely ready to reflect on yesterday's service, but I know I will be soon. For now I will just say that the boys and I are completely overwhelmed by the outpouring of love, support and friendship being sent our way. We appreciate you all so much.
I mostly just wanted to share the Eulogy that our Rabbi Susan Abramson read for Neal yesterday. She was kind enough to send me a copy so that I could share it with you. From my perspective she really captured Neal so well and I would love to share it with you.[...]
Funeral Services for Neal will be held Friday, July 27, 2018 at 1:00pm at Temple Shalom Emeth 16 Lexington Street in Burlington.
The family will be sitting shiva at Temple Shalom Emeth, Burlington following the interment Friday until 7PM, Saturday evening from 7-9, then continuing Sunday at the home of Lesley Shore 34 Coolidge Circle, Northboro from 6-8PM. Minyans will be Friday at 6:30PM, Saturday at 7PM and Sunday at 7PM.[...]
As much as I have prepared for this day, I find myself stunned and at a loss for adequate words. My heart has been completely shattered as I witnessed my love, my husband, my best friend, and father of my children take his last breaths last night.[...]
I often say that Neal and the boys are my heroes… and this is my truth. They have had to endure things I cannot even fathom as part of their battles with life-threatening illnesses, and I am constantly impressed by their will to overcome the often daunting challenges that life has placed in front of them.[...]
Hello once again to our family and friends… I first need to apologize for not updating you in so long. My only excuse is my usual “I’m overwhelmed, exhausted, and just plain drained”… and yes, things have been busy in this crazy holding pattern we live in.[...]
Well it’s been about 4 weeks since Neal transferred to home hospice care from the hospice house, so I think we are due for an update. There has been a lot going on… some of it good, but there’s also been a lot of very hard stuff. There have been huge changes and adjustments for all of us, and it’s incredibly difficult to handle that gracefully all the time.[...]
When you’ve been with someone for 25 years you get to know each other pretty well. Neal is much more than just the fun-loving guy that gets along with everyone and has a quick and hearty laugh. We’ve made 3 children together, built businesses together, moved house a half dozen times. We’ve cared for each other in sickness, and we’ve held each other through hard times. I’ve been blessed to see him cry when each of our boys were born and again when his father passed away. He’s probably the strongest person I will ever know. But he’s stubborn. [...]
Hospice is a very odd experience when you’re young. Most of us think of hospice and we think of that elderly relative that we visited when we were younger and they were resting peacefully, probably sleeping in a bed while we said our goodbyes wondering if they even knew that we were there. Maybe it was a grandparent, or it might have been an elderly parent. But you sure don’t expect to see many 52 year old guys in a hospice house...unless they are visiting. In many ways it seems like the staff here didn’t expect someone like Neal either. Let’s be honest, he’s never been just another patient. As the admitting nurse said to me, “he looks a lot better in person than he does on paper.” In other words, while he’s feeling and looking SO much better than he did in the hospital, it’s easy to forget that he’s a really really sick guy.[...]