It was four weeks ago today that Marian had surgery, and we received the devastating news that the pancreatic cancer could not be removed, and indeed, had spread to the adjacent liver. Lynn was with me as the surgeon explained, and I will never forget Lynn's comment, "Dad, this stinks!" Neither will I forget how Lynn held my hand as I wept out my frustration, disappointment and fear.[...]
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It's Sunday evening and we look back over a good day. The Village Church on TV was our sanctuary this morning. Once again we sang the hymns and read the Scriptures out loud with the congregation. The preacher this morning was Stuart Briscoe who spoke on aging using Psalm 90 as his text. It was a stirring and helpful message.[...]
This week Marian and Jim took the first steps to enroll in Shell Point's Hospice program. This will provide a number of benefits even while Marian is at home and then excellent end of life care in the hospice unit. Marian continues with much tiredness but is eating quite well and is as active as possible. Both she and Jim are overwhelmed by the outpouring of love and affirmation they are receiving daily from friends and family far and near. Marian reports that she is free of pain and other complications. Please continue to pray.[...]
On Saturday Jim walked to the church and brought home a copy of Sundays church bulletin. So when the service came on TV at 10:15 we felt we were part of the congregation. We sang the hymns and read the responsive Scriptures and the Apostles Creed out loud. It was especially memorable for Jim as Marian sang her alto and Jim sang melody, as they have innumerable times while singing duets together through the years. Marian is getting a bit of her appetite back and has been eating well, though she remains quite tired and sleepy. She and Jim have walked the hallway of their condo 4X yesterday since it was only 59 degrees outside - but with bright sun. Thanks to all for their prayers and love[...]
The day Marian came home from the hospital our daily Bible reading included this from Psalm 33: vs 20 -22
We wait in hope for the LORD;
he is our help and our shield.
In him our hearts rejoice,
for we trust in his holy name.
May your unfailing love rest upon us, O LORD,
even as we put our hope in you.[...]
Marian''s return home was described by Lynn as "making the process of buying a car look easy'. It took 9 hours after the doctor wrote the discharge orders to the point that the hospital nursing staff got around to it. And then only with some urging from Lynn, our social worker daughter! To be honest, the floor had 6 discharges yesterday and 8 new admissions, so we understand their pressure . The 40 minute trip home was uneventful, the new meds were waiting at the pharmacy and Marian had a very restful night.[...]
Marian heads back home to Shell Point Village today. She is weak and easily drifts into a doze but smiles at the though of discharge. Her diet at this point is pretty limited which may be rather helpful to her new kitchen manager, chef Jim. Marian won't be ready for visits or calls for a bit but has expressed that she feels the love and prayers of people as she moves in small steps towards strength and energy. [...]
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