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Posted 2016-07-27T11:56:25Z


It's been over a week since mom has been gone. It's been extremely hard coping with the loss of the rock of our family. Staying busy is helping all of us get through. We want to thank all of you for your endless support of the past few weeks. The funeral mass was beautiful and I think it was just as mom would have wanted it. The music was beautiful thanks to Maury Fountain (my elementary music teacher). Mom's Godchildren and other special family members helped us with readings, pall bearers, and the gifts. We know that she wouldn't have had it any other way. As hard as it was for Zac, Chad and I to stand up and read her eulogy, we couldn't imagine anyone else trying to do it. We knew right away that it would be our job to try to encompass what a wonderful, caring, kind, loving human being she was in a short ten minutes. We each wrote from the heart and tried to explain the absolute blessing it was having her as our mother.

I know mom wouldn't mind me using this site to give you an update about Zac's surgery yesterday. Many people have been asking and sending prayers. He drove out to Mayo Clinic with Beth and Randy Sunday morning. My dad flew in on Tuesday morning. The surgery went as well as can be expected. More information will follow this week after the biopsy is done. Zac was able to talk, eat small amounts and was even up walking a little. They even think that he will be discharged today (Wednesday)! They will stay in Minnesota for several more days just to ensure that he is alright before making the trip back home.

Our gratitude to our family and friends can't be written in words. Like mom mentioned way back in one of my first posts, there is so much good in the world. I wish it didn't take a tragedy like cancer or death for us to see and appreciate this. We take life for granted. Be kind to someone today and please stop and enjoy the beauty in your life. Hug your family and tell them how much you love them. It matters. I'm going to spend today, and every day, remembering my mom's gorgeous smile and the feelings of warmth and love that she brought to my heart everyday. The sadness is overwhelming and unbearably heavy but my job will be to try to outweigh the sadness with the positivity and bravery that my mother showed in the face of her devastating illness.

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Comments (17)

  • Anne Bear
    Anne Bear

    So beautiful, Reilly...Zac is on my prayer list and I will be praying for "doable, treatable, curable" in the days to come as you wait for results. My parents said the funeral for your mom was beautiful and that you and your brothers were amazing with your tributes. May you feel your mom's warm and loving spirit each day as you wake to bring it out into the world like she did. Thank you for reaching out to keep us updated with Zac through this site. You are a blessing.

    3 years ago · Reply
  • cathi beatty
    cathi beatty

    Reilly I appreciate your update and wanted to let you and your brothers know how awesome you were in your tributes to your mom. All three were so beautifully written and spoken, and it was all very, very moving. I wish you strength and optimism going forward and hope for a smooth return to a day of no tears, only joy, as you embrace your new life w/ the cherished memories of your mom and all she has given you. Though it is certainly not a journey you would have asked for, it will arm you w/ a strength and resiliency that will serve you well in years to come. Continuing to think of all your family as you move ahead. . .

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Kathy Zeliff
    Kathy Zeliff

    Reilly, wanted to tell you at the funeral home how much I appreciated this page. I hated to keep asking how things were going, I am sure your dad was asked 100 times a day. I pray that Zac will have a speedy recovery. Thank you again for sharing!

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Diane and Brantley Davis
    Diane and Brantley Davis

    Thank you for this important update on Zach as he has been in our prayers-- as is all of you. Please keep us posted and know that we are praying daily for the God of all comfort to extend His grace and love to you and bring healing to your aching hearts. With Love, Diane and Brantley Davis, Alfred Station

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Anne Fox
    Anne Fox

    Reilly that is so beautifully written - your Mom has to be beaming with pride - you are all amazing. So glad to see this update on Zac - he has been on our minds and in our prayers. Zac we're all here pulling for you - praying the biopsy comes back negative and that the doctors have within their power to heal him. We are here for you - Bill & Anne Fox

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Patty Fernaays
    Patty Fernaays

    I couldn't make it to the funeral, but Jerry told me it was beautiful!! As he spoke of you ,and your brothers eulogy, he could not hold back the tears. He said, each one of you did a beautiful tribute to your mother!! He also mentioned your grandfather standing and up, and praising you.....and everyone clapped! We are blessed to have Maury, and Father Michael. It was all very special, just like your mom!! We are praying for Zachary! Thank you for the update on Zach! 🙏

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Mary Hubbard
    Mary Hubbard

    Keeping Zac in our thoughts and prayers. He is a strong guy and all the support from family and friends and help from above will get you all through these challenges. God bless you all and Godspeed to Zac.

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Sara Canzano
    Sara Canzano

    Reilly, we are on vacation and couldn't attend your dear mom's funeral. Our hearts were with you and we started the morning of her funeral with a prayer and memories that we have of her. We also are so thankful for this page and we can all stay together in our rememberance and love of her. Xoxo

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Cindy Lawrence
    Cindy Lawrence

    Reilly- you and your family are SO STRONG and your Mom would be proud. Thank you for sharing the update on Zac. We have been praying for him right along and will continue to pray for good news and quick healing. Rich and Cindy Lawrence

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Aaron Evans
    Aaron Evans

    Prayers from are family to yours,Sorry for the recent loss of your mother what a great woman. I hope that everything comes back negative for zack. Love you all and God bless

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Jessie Steffenilla
    Jessie Steffenilla

    Thinking of you and your family!! <3

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Kim Willse
    Kim Willse

    Reilly you continue to make your mother proud. Thank you for the update on Zac. The funeral and services for your mom were beautiful and inspirational and I am in awe of the incredible strength of your family throughout this sad time in all of your lives. Many thoughts and prayers are being sent for a positive outcome for Zac. Kim (Sloan) Willse

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Kelly Hoffmeister
    Kelly Hoffmeister

    Reilly: Thank you for the update on Zac, he holds a special place in my heart as your mother did. I know your mom is truly watching over all of you, showing this today as how wonderful Zac handled his surgery. Please tell Zac as well as the rest of the family to stay strong and positive. My thoughts and love are with you all everyday, Love you!

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Mary Humphrey
    Mary Humphrey

    Thoughts and prayers for Zac and the rest of the family. Hugs

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Patricia Bauer
    Patricia Bauer

    Thank you, Reilly, for keeping us updated on Zac's surgery. We are encouraged by your initial report of how he is doing. He will continue to be in our prayers and well as the rest of your family as you work through this time of great sorrow. Your Mom's funeral service was a beautiful reflection of your entire family's faith and determination to reflect goodness and love. I was especially thankful to hear Maury's lovely voice once again and was so touched by the beautiful songs your mother chose. Jim and I took a few minutes to say hi to Maury after the service. We hadn't seen her in several years, since Warsaw's St. Michael's School closed. Our daughter, Amy, also took voice lessons from Maury, so it was very special to have Maury share a special part in the funeral. Thank you also to you and your brothers for sharing your very special thoughts with us about your Mom. We'll cherish those memories! Thank you! Jim and I will be praying for each of you!

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Amy Leone
    Amy Leone

    You all did an unbelievable job at your mom's funeral. She would have been so proud. I know she was watching over Zac and all will be well. She wouldn't have it any other way.

    3 years ago · Reply
  • Michelle Dills
    Michelle Dills

    Our thoughts and prayers are with Zac and all of you!

    3 years ago · Reply