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Jessica Hernandez Jessica Hernandez

If you guys have information re: Hospice (name of the company and a phone number) Please post it. Thank You, Jessica

Gilberto Mendez Jr Gilberto Mendez Jr

Actions speak louder than words. The time getting spent on this website is time we can all be with my Tata. There is no one to blame for what is happening, all my Tata wants is the care and comfort from his kids, grandchildren and great grandchildren. Why cant we just all put a smile on my Tatas face before it gets to late.

Nick Castro Nick Castro

Since we are now striving for candor, I'll be blunt. Firstly, I don't think Grandpa is on this website, so all of the pleas for decorum have nothing to do with him, and everything to do with us. Secondly, I keep seeing language that references behavior in a nebulous way, but never directly identifies that behavior. It's a lot of little jabs, whether coming from Tia Suzy, prima Jenny, or my mom, it's the same thing. Hiding behind Christianity or magnanimous intentions doesn't cut it, I think everyone sees right through those ruses, and I also think that those wounds are too deep to set aside quickly in any kind of meaningful way, so we have to navigate through them, not around them. Now, I think both of those issues are wrapped in one, and no one seems to want to identify the elephant in the room, so I will. This website was supposed to be a way to circumvent what many people in the family saw as a monopoly of information on Tia Suzy's part, but then Tia Suzy is the admin on the site, so it seems to defeat the original purpose and people are left with the same feelings of helplessness and futility. No one will say this outright though, so instead we get these petty back and forths with everyone. If Grandpa does not want a free flow of information about his condition, that would be a different story, but I have yet to hear this from anyone, and I certainly did not hear it directly from him when I saw him last month. He seemed to be stuck in the same obfuscation that we all were. A language barrier between him and his doctor is surely a factor in that as well though. My point is this: Candor cannot be cherry picked, it is a two way street with a lot of traffic on it. I am all for it, but people's feeling will surely be hurt. But, as we all know, in this family, someone's feelings are going to get hurt anyway, so let's just have some real communication in the process, it may actually serve to begin healing some of those old wounds.

Jessica Hernandez Jessica Hernandez

No worries, I'm not offended and thanks for the clarification. I'm sorry for all those that love my Dad, but mostly for my Dad. I won't speak for any one else, but me....regardless of the past I love all my brothers and sisters and wish them well. I love you too xo

jennifer crawford jennifer crawford

Tia your welcome for the update, ill be very clear with my response if you get offended ill apologize now. this will be my last time on this sight due to I don't need the updates here I go see grandpa and get them or to the doctor. Grandpa is terminal we will find out how long he has in two weeks. The face on my grandpa was so heart wrenching... It's no secret most of the Hernandez family doesn't get along for right or wrong reasons its so sad its that way. At this time I'm not asking for anyone to get along. I was simply asking as I saw grandpa face, I was hoping everyone can put there differences aside if needed and not make this time difficult. I apologize if it left you wondering if you would like to discuss more you can call me or facebook me. I've seen some comments on here and just seem unnecessary. the doctor did say there are three stages grandpa will go thru anger, depression and finally acceptance seems like the family will go thru the same as well. This time is difficult I know its not my first time I go thru this kind of news. I'm sure everyone has a reason for there actions mine here are for grandpa. I love you all and hope thks finds you well.

Jessica Hernandez Jessica Hernandez

Jen, thanks for the medical update. Can you please clarify. What do you mean, " please put all bad feelings aside" ?

Jessica Hernandez Jessica Hernandez

The post dated 12-14 sounds like a personal problem not medical.

jennifer crawford jennifer crawford

Hello everyone, this is jen I wanted to give everyone an update we just met with the oncologist. Grandpa will have another test in two weeks to see how much longer he has. I beg everyone to please put all bad feelings aside and don't make this time difficult. Spend as much time with him love him as much as you can. If anyone has any questions and would like to ask you can call me 909-900-7441.

Lena Wieland Hernandez Lena Wieland Hernandez

Thanks for the update. We will be praying for him!! Please thank Gilbert for being such a great grandson!!!

Jessica Hernandez Jessica Hernandez

if we have to TXT for info then what's the purpose of this web page?

Susan Hernandez Susan Hernandez

I'm busy taking care of him and my family, I will not be making phone calls. I will update and you guys can text me for more info.

Lena Wieland Hernandez Lena Wieland Hernandez

I hope this procedure will give him some relief. Thank you for the update. Send him our love!!

Paola Hernandez Paola Hernandez

Tia susie gracias por tener siempre al tanto de lo que le pasa a mi tata

Susan Hernandez Susan Hernandez

You can Teresa, pls note only one person is allowed to be with him. As soon as the appt is set up I will let you know.