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Posted 2020-08-01T16:10:23Z

Ben Went to Heaven

"It feels like there is a million ropes on me and I’m trying to fight through it to get to beauty.”

Benjamin “Cole” Anderson   


Hello friends, 

Matt, Luke and I want to share that the warrior, Ben “Cole” Anderson went to heaven Friday evening around 5pm, at home just like he wanted. We are so grateful for all of the prayers.  

We will share more information in the coming days.  

Ben has amazing friends.  We want to share this perspective and story from Timothy Keller’s book On Death maybe it will help. 

A modern secular view of death tells us to look at death as a perfectly natural part of the life cycle.  This view says: “Death is natural.  Death is just a part of life.  Death is nothing to be afraid of. Our bodies enrich the earth like the grass, trees, and other animals when we die.  Eventually we become stardust.  We’re still part of the universe.  It’s okay.”  But does such a view fit our deepest intuitions?  

Peter Kreeft is a Christian philosopher who tells a story about a couple who were friends of his and who were not religious people.  They had a seven-year-old son whose three-year-old cousin had died. So they sat down and tried to comfort him.  They said, “You realize death is perfectly natural.” They were trying to help him by explaining, “Death is fine, it is perfectly natural.  When to you die, your body goes to the earth and enriches the earth and other things grow.  Remember, you watched The Lion King?  But instead of being comforted, the little boy ran out of the room screaming, “I don’t want him to be fertilizer!”

The little boy was closer to Jesus’s point of view than his parents were.  He was grieving.  Death is not right.  It is not the way it ought to be.  It’s not the way God made the world. 

To say, “Oh, death is just natural,” is to harden and perhaps kill a part of your heart’s hope that makes you human.  We know deep down that we are not like trees or grass.  We were created to last.  We don’t want to be ephemeral, to be inconsequential.  We don’t want to be just a wave upon the sand.   The deepest desires of our hearts are for love that lasts. Death is not the way it ought to be.  It is abnormal, it is not a friend, it isn’t right.  This isn’t truly part of the circle of life.  Death is the end of it.  So, Grieve. Cry.


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Comments (55)

  • Nancy Smith
    Nancy Smith

    Praying for comfort for your family after this long battle. Love you all

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Christina Barr
    Christina Barr

    Matt, Katie and Luke - please know that our whole family is wrapping you all in love. We will miss Ben terribly - there is a Ben sized hole in the universe that will never be filled. xoxoxo Christina, Alan, and Sofie

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Christina Galan
    Christina Galan

    Keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers... ❤️

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Joanne Hof
    Joanne Hof

    Praying for you all at this time. Love you all. I'm so sorry. Nurse friend of Andi .

    2 years ago · Reply
  • carol taylor
    carol taylor

    I am so sorry for this loss. What a brave boy.........and what a wonderful family. May God Bless you in the coming days, weeks, months, years. RIP Sweet Ben!!

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Dana Hardy
    Dana Hardy

    Dear Katie and Family, You have all been so brave during Bens fight. I admire that. Now, I hope you find the peace you need during this time. My thoughts are with you. Dana Beckey Hardy

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Janis Sherwood
    Janis Sherwood

    This is such sad news. I know you made the best memories and gave Ben the best life he could want under the circumstances. I wish you strength and courage in the days, weeks, months ahead. Sending much love.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Alice Heiman
    Alice Heiman

    My heart goes out to you and your family and all who loved Ben so much.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Greg Latimer
    Greg Latimer

    I had no idea that when I was praying for Ben this morning, he was wrapped in the arms of his Lord already. It makes my prayer seem so feeble. So thankful for the reality of heaven. We grieve with you, however, and will continue lifting your family up to Jesus for the comfort only He can provide.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Afshan West
    Afshan West

    My thoughts and prayers are with your family during this difficult time. My heart breaks for you.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Denise Barcomb
    Denise Barcomb

    I could not feel deeper sorrow for all of you. This is a travesty and there are no words. Sending my prayers.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Laura Moberg
    Laura Moberg

    Crying with you this morning. I am so thankful he was able to be home. Sending you love and prayers.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Laura Teusink
    Laura Teusink

    My heart is breaking for you and your family.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Lisa craner
    Lisa craner

    Katie, Matt and Luke, There are just no words but words will have to do. My heart is broken and I am so sad to hear that Ben has passed. Ben was courageous, brave and so original. He was truly one of a kind. I am sending so much love and many prayers to you all.❤️

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Kim Luikart
    Kim Luikart

    We are sending all the love we can. Ben was a gift and an inspiration to this world.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Adrienne Fisher
    Adrienne Fisher

    Katie, My prayers and love are all I have to give you. Sending lots and lots of both. Adrienne Fisher

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Jovan

    We are all here for you during this time, sending you all big hugs, light, love and prayers. Please let us know if you are in need of anything. The Thweatt’s ❤️

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Mary Ann Hansen
    Mary Ann Hansen

    We are so sad to hear about Ben. Our hearts and prayers are with you all.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Cathy Nobles
    Cathy Nobles

    Katie, Matt, and Luke, I send you my love and tears as I read this news. Ben was a unique "force of nature" who I am so glad I got to meet. A beautiful soul..My God's comfort surround you.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Melissa Carruthers
    Melissa Carruthers

    We cannot imagine the heartache you all feel. Thank you for sharing Ben’s life and incredible story with all of us. He was a beautiful soul who taught me to love and live in the fullness of today!! Praying for you all to be comforted and held tight in the arms of Christ. Melissa Carruthers & Jane Sylvester

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Katrina Loftin
    Katrina Loftin

    Matt, Katie & family, I am so very sorry for your loss. There are just no words. Sending love and prayers to you.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Jackie Peacock
    Jackie Peacock

    We have always been thinking about your family and talking about the courage and love and focus on gratitude that each one of you exemplify... Ben and your entire family are - and willl always be - a true inspiration. Sending you love, peace, prayers, and comfort. ❤️

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Michael Paidakovich
    Michael Paidakovich

    We are so grateful to have been able to see a part of your amazing Ben for ourselves through Soccer and Skiing. A noble soul has left this world and we hope your broken hearts find comfort somehow. Love from Mike, Justin and Maren

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Rebecca Neely
    Rebecca Neely

    Matt, Katie and Luke, my heart is so broken to hear that your beloved Ben has gone to heaven. 💔 It has been so inspiring seeing his courageous and adventurous heart swelling up even through pain and a cruel prognosis. It seems so unfair, but you have all loved deeply and shown him what a hero God made him to be. I am so so sorry you are going through such a painful loss. Sending you so much love! 💕💕💕 xxx Rebecca and family

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Tim Erlach
    Tim Erlach

    Celeste and I are so sad to hear the news! Our thoughts and love are with you!

    2 years ago · Reply
  • catherine schmidt
    catherine schmidt

    Oh, Katie, Matt, and Luke, I'm so sorry to hear this news. You are all in my thoughts. Rest in peace, sweet Ben.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Meghan Wolf
    Meghan Wolf

    Katie, Matt & Luke, We send our love, tears and prayers. Ben was a beautiful, energetic boy, and his loss is felt far and wide. The lessons your incredible family has taught all of us through this experience have also left a permanent mark of love, strength and courage. All our love, Meghan, Robb and Walker

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Kim Polson
    Kim Polson

    Our hearts are completely with you. Sending hugs and strength and all the love. Jon, Kim, Jake and Ty Polson

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Rabinowitz family
    Rabinowitz family

    Heaven became that much more beautiful! Ben thank you for your example - you have changed our lives for ever in so many positive ways. Your legacy of boldness, bravery, and badassery will endure. To Ben's family: your journey has been extraordinary and lean on your community as our collective love remains strong. Sending you all comfort and peace. Thinking of Ben all around you and his beautiful smile brilliant.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Dawn and Jim Perry
    Dawn and Jim Perry

    Thank you to all of Ben’s family for allowing us to share your journey and to be a part of the praying warriors’ team. Jesus lovingly has prepared a perfect place in heaven just for Ben. Oh what a glorious day it will be to meet together for eternity! Ben is now home free basking in the presence of His Lord and Savior. No more sorrow and no more pain. Left here are the beautiful memories shared & the lasting inspiration Ben gave to us all. These 3 remain: faith, hope, & love...the greatest if these is love.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Chris Salcone
    Chris Salcone

    Love to your family from ours. We are so sorry. God bless Ben and God bless you all. Love, the Salcones.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • michelle kinnaman
    michelle kinnaman

    Precious Anderson Family, How can I find words to express my heart to you? Your journey has been viewed by all of us. We have stood in amazement at your strength and love and willingness to bring us all along. We too know where Ben is. Yes, heaven is rejoicing, but sadly the earth side of things is sadness. Grief and loss are real, you can never become so spiritual that you don't feel them. Ben taught us all how to LIVE LIFE every moment.. I will forever remember his voice on Andi's phone. I didn't care if it went to voice mail, that little voice and message always made me smile.. You finished well, it wasn't your choice but you accepted this journey with God's grace. I am so proud of you both. It required the two of you to lay down your own life for his. Matt you did it one way and Katie, you were required to do it another. Both were so Brave and God was well pleased. Now it's time to heal, to be held yourselves in Gods loving arms and comforted. Thank you for showing us all what it looks like to accept God's will when it is so painful. I send our love and prayers and now my little green bracelet is done.. God finished Ben's life here on Earth and took him home to begin the next.. Holding you in my heart, thoughts and prayers... Mikie and Bob Kinnaman

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Heather Bacchus
    Heather Bacchus

    Riad and I are so sorry for your loss and sending love and prayers to you all. "He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or pain. All these things are gone forever."

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Herb Cunitz
    Herb Cunitz

    Katie, Matt and Luke. I am so sorry for your loss. Our hearts and tears are with you. Rest In Peace, Ben.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Alissa Surges
    Alissa Surges

    I am sorry and am sending lots of love your way.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Judy Loveall
    Judy Loveall

    Katie and Matt we are grieving with you and holding you close. We’re praying for peace to enfold you and give you strength to face this unimaginable loss.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Auntie Lainie Bush Barnhart
    Auntie Lainie Bush Barnhart

    Precious Katie, Matt, & Luke, The note you wrote perfectly expressed the confusion around death. So simply said. As I read it, all I could think of was, "oh death, where is your sting?" Jesus made the way possible for us not to just become fertilizer. Ben knew this in his precious heart of hearts & I know that will continue to comfort you as you walk through your days. I can see his smiling face now. Your lives have touched all of us in ways that can not be described. Thank you for sharing it with us.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Floyd & Nannette Rowley
    Floyd & Nannette Rowley

    Katie and Matt: Nannette and I are so sorry for your loss.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • nate Edwards
    nate Edwards

    hi matt katie and luke sorry for your praying for so sad

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Carole Martin
    Carole Martin

    So many people live their lives and wonder what their purpose on earth is. For decades they question why God put them on this earth. God knows each hair on our head, He has planned our birth and death and has called us to one day leave this world as we know it and be with Him for eternity. Ben’s short life and his strength through his journey showed that he fulfilled the call God put on his life in a short time span. His journey has touched people who never met him. They have seen his and his amazing family’s strength and trust in the Lord Most Highs plan and design. I am in awe of how much wisdom and strength Ben showed at such a young age. Such a sweet young man. Ben, you are now in the loving arms of your savior and have true life in eternity with Our Lord. You will be missed on earth until one day your loved ones will be with you again in paradise. Matt, Katie, and Luke my prayers are with you. I pray that the Father would send His Holy Spirit to comfort you and bring His perfect peace. I have said this to Matt many times....I am here for you....anything you need just reach out and let me know.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Susan Wilkinson
    Susan Wilkinson

    I am so very sorry to hear of Ben's passing. May the caring of family, friends, and even strangers like me give you peace and comfort. All that I heard about Ben was that he was so very special and so very loved. You are in my prayers dear Anderson family.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Rabinowitz family
    Rabinowitz family

    Dear the Andersons, I am really sorry for you guys and i am sad that Ben passed away. I miss Ben so much he was a good friend. my favorite thing about Ben is that he is really cool and was amazing at a lot of sports. love josh r.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Anna Satterfield
    Anna Satterfield

    Blessings and love to you all-🙏😔 The Satterfield’s

    2 years ago · Reply
  • James & Kristi Wilson
    James & Kristi Wilson

    We are grieving over this precious little guy, and all that he endured while showing all of us the beauty of life as he so enjoyed. As he is in the arms of Jesus, we are still crying, and praying comfort over everyone who loves him for today, and those silent times to come. I believe that Jesus spared him from the times to come, in which Ben is now aware of; oh what a loving God we have. We send our love, our condolences, and gratitude for allowing us to be included in all of Ben's up's and down's. We will continue to hold you in our prayers. With love and deep sympathy James & Kristi Wilson

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Niki Ewing
    Niki Ewing

    Sending you big hugs from our family to yours. Ben was such an inspiration to young and old. We admired his goals and accomplishments. Your family is in our prayers.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Beth Dukleth
    Beth Dukleth

    I'm heartbroken to hear this news and so sorry. Ben taught us how to truly live and to be brave, he was an amazing little boy. I'm crying tears of sorrow and also celebrating his precious life. Sending you love praying that you feel the presence of God's love at this difficult time. Beth

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Kelly

    So much love. I’m so sorry. Praying for you.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Chelsea McLeod
    Chelsea McLeod

    Today, I cry tears that mean a hundred things at once, happy and sorrowful and desperate and hopeful. Sending my love and blanketing your family with prayers of comfort as you celebrate Ben, and grieve.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Jules A
    Jules A

    I never met Ben... but knew of his precious spirit through his Aunt Lora. I learned so much from his mighty journey. He touched me in his living and now through his death. May Peace that’s beyond our understanding be with you!

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Lebo Newman
    Lebo Newman

    Ben was a real blessing to you all and you all were a blessing for him. So special how he was treated in his journey though a wonderful life you provided for him! Soon memories will bring the smiles they deserve. Vibes of love and good health to the whole family.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Marci Pollock
    Marci Pollock

    I'm so sorry to hear about Ben's passing. I remember when you were pregnant with him, seeing you at the store with your sweet baby boy, sweet preschool years with Luke and Ms. Kristy, and hearing your boys playing in your back yard, when I would make my way to another women's group at Sheila's and Bella's. I loved the sound of family coming from your home. My heart just aches for all of you and yet I'm deeply comforted by all these fun pictures and your blog. Thank you for sharing your journey! You are all deeply inspiring and strong. My heartfelt prayers are for all of you and Ben as he continues on his own spiritual path.

    2 years ago · Reply

    We are so sad to hear this. Your family is in our thoughts and hearts. Erin, Jake, Hayden, Annie and Thayer.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Lucia Lombardo
    Lucia Lombardo

    Dear Katie, you're in our prayers. Thank you for sharing Ben's journey, we've been touched deeply by reading about his journey and resilience during these months. Your love as parents is an example to follow. May God bless you every day and comfort you. With love, Lucia, Matteo, Matilde and Melissa.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Glory Streit
    Glory Streit

    Glory Streit The day Ben died, I had been praying and crying for your family and the tremendous loss that would be yours when Ben went to heaven. That evening, I heard from Andi that Ben was in heaven. May God put fresh hope into each day of grief. And may Jesus' presence be more real to you than ever before. And may He heal your broken hearts.

    2 years ago · Reply
  • Sara Yelowitz
    Sara Yelowitz

    Our hearts are breaking for you all; Ben's bold and sweet spirit will forever remain in our memory. You truly made the most of these years with him, and he was lucky to have such an incredible family by his side during this time. There are really no words but just know that you are surrounded by so much love right now.... Love, Sara, Aidan and Rachel

    2 years ago · Reply